Rather than... This.

There is a deep, almost primal motivation to express oneself through their organism - what is in one, what one is all about, what kind of person one is - and so they start looking for a place to express it... a place they feel somewhat comfortable, a place they can visit often enough to keep returning regularly. Most if not ALL of these places are fairly innocuous and anonymous - no one really knows the other people, what they are all about, who they are, what they want - so the depth of expression is just barely superficial, if that. There, it's the chit-chat of the masses that rules.

However, if one is very lucky, and makes a certain effort, one may locate a special place to hangout, where...

RATHER THAN: continuously wasting their highest and best thoughts, feelings, energies on strangers who don't really give a god damn - who only want to IMPRESS you and everyone on just how wonderful, special, and unique they are...

THIS: one could learn how to gather and hold close their most creative and original thoughts, feelings and energies in order to push them even Higher, and Better, for that special place, and bring ALL OF THAT to the group, each time, every time, because those people have *earned* the right to be there, in your presence, when you express it because you value them that highly to speak to them in that way. No one can make this happen from the outside. It can ONLY begin from within, and be strengthened through continued effort. The LESS you do of the former, and the MORE you do of the latter, the stronger and more powerful you become. It's mathematical. There, it's the birth of the benevolent king.

I am detailing an extremely narrow viewpoint to say that these special places are the most important thing in the world - when seen correctly - and I am elevating the importance of a moment way out of proportion to the way they are normally seen for the primary purpose of growing into it.